Teacher: Reading a book is better than sex.
Teacher: It’s like a 10-hour orgasm!
Girl pipes up: Yeah, and with a book I actually get to finish!
[Boys’ laughter dies off almost instantly as the girls hoot]
Stop saying that “sex is a basic human need”.
"Give it to me straight doc, is he gonna be okay?"
"No ma’am I’m sorry but we were too late…your son just couldn’t get some. There was nothing we could do."
*mother crumbles to the floor, curses the friendzone to the heavens. Doc lowers fedora over corpse’s eyes respectfully*
Stop Patriarchy was recently asked to remove all anti-pornography messages from a table we had at a Vagina Monologues production, in the name of “sex positivity.” Activists with Stop Patriarchy said, you know that there’s a war on women when the state can keep sex education out of the schools and abolish abortion, while a curious ten-year-old can type “sex” into Google and watch a woman eat shit. This is what we are exposing, and we should all fight it. Porn has nothing to do with sex, and it’s not “positive” in its effects—it does nothing to encourage real intimacy, it makes rape and the absence of consent sexy in the minds of many, and the industry itself continues to intersect with sex trafficking and generally treat women like garbage. The event organizer went on to say that there were women involved in the event who create “feminist pornography.” Stop Patriarchy said that we need a movement for women’s liberation, fighting for a world without a multi-billion dollar sex trafficking industry, where women’s bodies are not objects up for sale: not through sex slavery, not in strip clubs, not in porn, no matter who is getting the profit. A world where slavery is rejected not sexualized, and a woman is more than an orifice and receptacle to stuff things into or pump stuff out of.
This is where the connection between the social origins and the social consequences of individual desires must be grasped. Not all theories that seem on the surface to be in opposition to harmful and oppressive tradition actually reflect the kind of world that is possible: a world without slavery in any form. On the contrary, the defining of sex as “whatever you want it to be” when what people want is being shaped by a patriarchal system, is in itself a stamp of approval on the intolerable conditions women face in the world as it is.—
there goes my like of the vagina monologues. wow.(via chocolate-lantern)
Our default setting is not ‘yes’.
It is long past time to end the assumption that if someone doesn’t say no, or fight back, that they are consenting to sexual activity.
People react to stress in different ways. Some may freeze up. Others might be traumatized by past sexual violence and react in passive compliance while inside they’re terrified.
It is really not too much to expect that someone should care enough about their partner to notice their state of mind, signified by body language or evasive responses to queries.
One way to fight rape culture is to stop pretending that it is hard to tell if your partner is fully engaged, interested, and enthusiastic. It isn’t.
If you remove biological femaleness from the definition of “woman” you’re left with stereotypes related to femininity.
If you then try to remove the stereotypes, you’re left with a word that defines absolutely nothing, and is useful to no one.
And making a word that is important to the discussion of systematic oppression into meaningless window dressing is fucking bullshit.
And when I see queer theorists saying that the sex binary is inherently oppressive, I can’t help but think it’s because they can’t imagine a world where male and female could exist and not dominate each other. Radicals see the material reality of biological sex and reject a system that uses those facts to organize its oppression of females; queer theorists, on the other hand, can’t separate the two – the non-oppressive reality and the oppressive fiction constructed in relation to that reality – so their only option to avoid the resultant abuse is to deny the facts.
Queer theorists see the intimate connection between biological sex and oppression, and they react by dismantling the notion of biological sex; feminists see the intimate connection between biological sex and oppression, and they react by dismantling oppression. That’s the fundamental difference between liberals and radicals; one destroys truth to avoid confronting power, and one confronts power to avoid destroying truth.— http://genderdetective.wordpress.com/2014/07/22/intersex/ (via genderheretic)
Woman: I hate other girls I’m not like most girls they are all so catty and slutty and bitchy!
Everyone: That’s so true!!! women have no self-respect/shame/whatever these days!
Woman: I hate men because I have been abused by them my entire life and I understand that I live in a society where they are socialized to look at me as subhuman and I resent the privilege they have over me
Everyone: FEMINAZIII!!! EQUALITY NOT MATRIARCHYY !!!
Tumblr is where growing up as a boy and wanting to be a girl, is the same experience as actually growing up as a girl.
Why is it such a big deal that one festival on someone’s private property isn’t trans inclusive? There has to be at least a dozen or so other women’s music festivals that do include trans people. There must also be like a million more important trans issues out there than not being able to go camping at an expensive festival in Michigan.
Cis women are “people with vaginas”. Does that make trans women “people with penises?”
Both are accurate, both are depersonalizing. I don’t thing trans women would enjoy being referred to as “testes-havers”, and so out of respect we don’t call them that (despite the validity of the statement).
So why, then, is it alright to reduce a woman to their reproductive capacity—an essentialist position if ever there was one, especially given the fact that these same activists do reify gender roles and stereotypes (“like pink and sailor moon? You’re a girl!”)? Why is that acceptable, when we, in return, cannot use the same language?
If you’ll use language to refer to someone that you won’t allow against yourself, then that says something about what you’re saying.— appropriately-inappropriate (via fuckyeah-radicalfeminism)